Posted by: zachlassiter | November 5, 2007

Why Christian’s Upset Me

I’m going to be bold here.  I have a topic which I’m very passionate about and I don’t understand why the church isn’t as open about it.  I’m very passionate about people with special needs.  I have Aspergers Syndrome myself.  Whenever I have talked about this with Christians I always get the response that if you have enough faith Jesus will heal you, or its because your not trying.  I have never heard once any of the following brought up:

Exd 4:10-11 (NIV) 
Moses said to the Lord, “O Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue.” The Lord said to him, “Who gave man his mouth? Who makes him deaf or mute? Who gives him sight or makes him blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.”

So God just told Moses that he makes people deaf, blind, and mute and knowingly does it!  Jesus went as far as to say this:

John 9:1-3 
As he passed by, he saw a man blind from birth. And his disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” Jesus answered, “It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be displayed in him.

John 11:3;4
So the sisters sent to him, saying, “Lord, he whom you love is ill.” 
But when Jesus heard it he said, “This illness does not lead to death. It is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it.”

Wow, people are made this way for the glory of God.  God knew people would be made this way and he allows it for his Glory!  I have Aspergers and I see the gifts that it sometimes get through it.  The unique ability to learn technology rather quickly, the unique ability to see the world from the prospective of the disabled and the non-disabled.  Paul even very likely had a disability or something that was different about him:

2nd Corinthians 12:8-10
Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

So our weaknesses as people with disabilities is actually our strength.  I have noticed that a friend of mine who is cognitively impaired is the most faithful and in touch person with God I know.  She says things that are biblical, is caring, and she really doesn’t even try.  She just depends on God.

But I don’t quite get why we throw this roadblock in front of people that God chooses to create this way.  Why do we as Christians lead those people astray or quietly sit and say nothing when we see others leading them astray.  As Christians we are called to follow Jesus’s teachings and I know Jesus is often compared to a Sheppard that would not let a lamb go astray – so why do we?

God is very clear on what the consequences are on things like this:

Lev 9:14(NLT)
Show your fear of God by treating the deaf with respect and by not taking advantage of the blind. I am the Lord.

Deu 27:18(NIV)
“Cursed is the man who leads the blind astray on the road.” Then all the people shall say, “Amen!”

I really think this refers not to a physical road, but the spiritual road.  I kinda wonder why you never really hear about this in a church.  What makes this so taboo that its dealt with all hush hush.  To tell you the truth it makes me really upset.


Responses

  1. I agree with you in that I have heard people tell others that you are not healed because their faith isn’t strong enough. I think it’s terrible.

    Paul certainly had enough faith and help heal others, yet he was still afflicted. Paul said he was still afflicted because God wanted him to stay humble. Sometimes it is not in Gods will, that we are to be healed. Sometimes God does allow us to go through the trials, to make us closer to Him, or even bring others to Him.
    I prayed that my father would be healed from a lung ailment, he never got healed. One year before he died, almost to the date, he got saved. After he died, it changed 5 peoples lives in the family and led them all to Christ. Had he been healed, perhaps these people would have never found God, but I believe that God knows what he is doing, even when we don’t. Sometimes we can’t imagine that suffering or pain can be a good thing, but God knows us better than we know ourselves. And even in our afflictions we should love God, and believe that He has a good reason.
    God Bless

  2. I don’t understand you ; you said you are upset with Christians , but you are a Christian yourself. Are you upset with yourself ? or maybe what you mean is , your upset with your fellow Christians . Right?

    Sorry friend… but I will tell you the truth… The Christians you think , are not really Christians, they are just pretending to be a Christians .

    I will give you a much deeper insight about this topic, if you want to.

    God Bless

  3. dove124,

    I disagree with you on the fact that they are not Christians. Everyone falls short of the glory of God. They are well meaning people – but have difficulty understanding something they have not epxerienced.

  4. It is such a shame that they nearly mock the words of the bible by keeping those words in silence. Isn’t the bible one of the things that Christianity was based around?

    I think that people who say “you don’t have enough faith in Jesus, or else you’d be cured” are ignorant, especially towards people who were born with any condition.

    And I kind of agree with dove124, but my opinion is probably more pessimistic than his. I believe that there was only one real Christian, and he died on the cross.

    Its nice to meet another blogger with Asperger’s Syndrome. Yup, I have the same thing :) . And thank you for making this post. I hope to read some more thoughtful entries of yours.

  5. Ignorance is based on lack of knowledge, and the church (as a whole) has turned a blind eye to disabilities for a while. I don’t think its done intentionally, I think its a combination of lack of knowledge on how to handle it and its also something new. People in general don’t like change.

  6. I’m struggling with the whole faith issue myself. I had attended one church where my autistic children were heralded and thought of as “special angels” sent by God. That irritated me because I don’t want them to be put on a pedestal. I want them to be like everyone else.

    Then the next church I attended embraced them and tried to treat them like everyone else but didn’t want to make much effort to do that.

    Blugh!

  7. Zach, thanks for your insightful post.

    As the mom of a special needs son, I understand exactly what you are saying. The majority of our greatest hurdles with acceptance have been with fellow Christian believers.

    It is so perplexing to our family. He was created by God and has value. Why turn him away or shun him?

    God bless!
    MarilynM

  8. Hey Zach,
    Wow, what great thoughts you share. I work in Nursing Homes and I see people all the time who are not “healed” (let’s be clear here I believe GOD heals) however, not everyone is healed.

    I think you are correct when you say “for GOD’s glory”. It is so important to leave the healing to GOD and in the meantime, love everyone until GOD’s will is done, however that manifests. Sounds simple but people get it wrong all the time.

    I once was on a business trip and I was alone eating at a local Chiness restaurant. Sitting diagonally from me in perfect sight was a slightly elderly couple who had a child latter in life. This child was special needs.

    I was saddened by what I saw. Everytime I looked up, the child was sitting in perfect posture being as quite as a mouse. The parents never once looked at her during the meal, and I seem to remember that they failed to make eye contact with anyone or anything, as if they were embarrassed by the presence of this precious child seated in front of them. That behavior continued on through the night.

    I left in tears and it changed the way I will forever view those of us whom GOD has not chosen to heal.

    Our culture, Christian and secular, tends to be slightly embarrassed by special needs. It is as if we say “get healed now” or “get straighten out na then present yourself” so people won’t know. Maybe this is just my experience but it breaks my heart.

    Between that event and my work, I find that GOD does some of the most precious work in the lives of the disabled or “un”healed among us. May we learn to act as JESUS in understanding how precious every life is.

    Sorry if I went a bit off topic but it stirs within me how we need to not say “if you had more faith….” It ialmost sounds as if Satan were speaking.

  9. I don’t see this as any different to New Agers who tell me if I talk to my kidneys, think positively and work through my birth trauma (seriously!), my kidney failure will be cured. I think it comes from fear and ignorance both and we have to work to help people overcome their fears and ignorance by sharing our gifts and our joys as well as our sorrows which are no different to theirs. Everyone has to struggle in some way at some time in their life, with a disability it’s just more obvious and we have a whole lot more practice!


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